Good news! I am down to yearly MRIs, I don’t have to get them every 6 months, because I’ve been stable so long!
In other news, I have briefly mentioned my sister. We’re going to refer to her as ES. (Evil Sister.) she’s 5 yrs younger than me? Maybe. When we were growing up, my parents would leave me to babysit, and would leave a list of chores that had to be done before they got home (not doing them meant bruises, broken objects, and being grounded from church, the ONE time a week I got to leave the house), I’d split up the chores, and ES would flat out refuse, knowing I would do them all. I’d tell my parents, and they would say the important thing was the chores got done.
Fast forward. I’m 19, married, pregnant with my 2nd baby. She’s 14/15-ish. Exhusband and I go swimming at my parents. She jumps in the pool, climbs all over my husband, tries to dunk him under water, ends up his face buried in her boobs. I tell them both to knock it off. He says he can’t stop her. She says I’m just jealous, and they basically continue their foreplay for the years until I divorce him.
I get a divorce, now she is telling anyone who will listen what a huge slut I am because I have condoms in the medicine cabinet, and I work in a bar. Literally steals my car keys so I can’t get to work, because she’s protecting my soul from my vagina.
She gets married, and her and her husband Mike, have the bestest, most Christian, God-blessed marriage in all of history, and if you ever make a choice differently, you are doomed, and stupid.
She cheats on Mike, a bunch. They get divorced. Another woman’s husband gets her pregnant, she goes running back to Mike, they get married a month after the divorce. She has kid. Mike’s name on birth certificate. She is cheating again. She is pregnant again, they are divorced again, she’s getting married next month. She’s been divorced for 6 weeks.
Are you getting the picture yet? She’s just a crappy person.
She tries to add my Son13 on Facebook, maybe a year ago. I block her. Basically all her posts are about the sanctity of marriage. How immigration is ruining our country. How gay marriage is the reason for hurricanes. How atheists are the reason for school shootings. etc. So, I’m a bi-atheist-chick, married to an immigrant, and I’m not in the mood to have to defend myself all day, every day, especially from her attacks. S13 doesn’t like her anyway. And, I think she is a terrible influence in general.
She tries to go around and keep talking with him. I video message Mike (they were still married) because she has me blocked on everything. Mike and I were friends. I genuinely cared about him. And, I explain, I’m everything she hates, and I want her to leave my family alone. I know this probably means we can’t talk anymore, and I’m sorry. I’m a little teared up at this point. Whatever.
Fast forward. I realize I’ve been deleted by several family members on Facebook. People I don’t generally have a problem with. The few family members I am in contact with never comment on anything I post, never like anything. Ok, whatever. I’ve been posting more political stuff lately, and I know our politics are different, so, I assume that’s it.
My brother comes to visit me last week. He has his wife, and 2 kids with him. His wife is sweet, but, naive, and very chatty. So, she babbles on all day. And, she starts talking about evil sister. And, how unfair SIL thinks everyone has been to me.
Turns out, Evil Sister is SO MAD I’m keeping my kids from her, she has demanded everyone in the family take sides or they will never see her kids again. And, they need to choose her because I moved 700 miles away, so, we’re gone anyway, if they choose me, it will be like losing me, and my kids AND her and her family. So, she is the logical choice. And, a vast majority of my family agreed.
So, to make sure she wasn’t being lied to, she went through the phones of everyone she could get her hands on, and blocked me. On Facebook. On apps. Blocked my phone number.
And everyone is fine with this.
She took my video message to Mike, and showed to to everyone so they could make fun of me. SIL said ES had it posted to her Facebook page for awhile, because I was so lame to be crying while I said good-bye to Mike.
So, what the hell? Like, I’ll be honest, I’m hurt that everyone chose her, and to have nothing to do with me. Ok? That hurts. I haven’t done anything, except tell her she’s a bad influence and leave us alone. I wan’t trying to destroy her, or her family.
But, I’m angry. Angry I moved 700 miles away and she thinks that sides need to be chosen. What? Why? I’m not inviting everyone else to birthday partied and leaving her out. I’m not shunning her at Christmas. Nobody in my family is actually involved in my life, so, her little ultimatum was just about hurting me as much as possible. And, they let her. They let her manipulate, they chose her, instead of telling her to grow up.
I’m angry I moved away to get out of the drama, because it is actually dangerous to me, and she keeps trying to ramp it up. So, she can literally hospitalize me with her bullshit, and that’s fine. But, I’m the bad guy here because I said “No, your grown ass doesn’t need to add my 13 yr old on Facebook”
I completely removed myself from the situation, and she’s like, chasing me around to make me involved?
Fuck that shit.